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Why I’m Offering One-on-One Support for People with Chronic Illness

As someone who lives with fibromyalgia and other chronic conditions, I know firsthand how isolating and overwhelming this journey can feel. I’ve been down the path of losing activities I loved, struggling with daily tasks that once felt effortless, and feeling like no one truly understands what it’s like to live in a body that feels like it’s failed you.

I’ve also learned some pretty important things along the way. I now know that small and consistent steps can lead to some pretty amazing improvements in how I feel and what I’m able to do.

I’m Here to Walk Alongside You

Since I started sharing my journey through my daily and weekly blogs, some of you have reached out asking for more personalized support. Honestly, I was very hesitant to do this. I’m not a doctor. I have zero medical knowledge, besides what I’ve learned about my own chronic illnesses and what I’ve written about on my blog. 

I’ve been doing some soul-searching on this recently, and I’ve decided to help those who truly want it. I will not give any medical advice, but I will be here as someone who has struggled with a lot of the same things that you might be going through now.

I can be the person who:

  • can really empathize with what you’re going through
  • encourages you, and cheers you on, no matter how small the win
  • helps you find small daily activities (that you can build on later) that can create big improvements in how you feel daily

I want you to know that I’m not a miracle worker. If you are really ready to make small changes and commit to them, they will help. It’s not going to happen overnight; sometimes it took weeks for me to feel a difference. 

My body had been inactive for so long, it took a while to be able to work up to an actual exercise plan. Tiny steps are still steps forward. I certainly wasn’t feeling any worse, although I did feel discouraged not seeing or feeling results right away. 

Honestly, I had to start with daily stretching exercises just to be able to get up and down the stairs like a “normal” person. I used to limp my way up and down the stairs, one step at a time. I found some easy stretches that I could do while sitting on the couch or a kitchen chair to help improve my mobility. I would work on 2-3 stretches daily, at different times throughout the day, so I wouldn’t bring on a flare-up. 

That’s why I’m excited to offer one-on-one support for people navigating chronic illness. This isn’t medical advice or a miracle cure. It’s just me offering practical, compassionate guidance to someone who truly needs it.

What I Offer

Monthly Support Package – $10/month

  • Weekly check-ins with your preferred method (text, email, video call, or phone)
  • Personalized ideas for pacing, energy management, and activity modification
  • Help setting realistic, achievable goals that work with where you are right now
  • Support for dealing with flare-ups and setbacks (because they will happen, even when trying to prevent them)
  • Someone who listens without judgment and celebrates your wins, no matter how small

I’ve kept the price low because I know how chronic illness can impact our ability to work and our finances. Everyone deserves support, regardless of their financial situation.

Let’s Start With a Free Conversation

Before you (or I) commit to anything, I’d like to have a conversation between two people to get to know each other, talk about what you’re hoping to achieve, and see if working together feels like the right fit for both of us. 

No pressure, no sales pitch. Whatever we talk about will be kept private on my end. If you want to share our discussions, that is entirely up to you. 

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

I won’t promise you a complete transformation or claim that I can take away your pain. What I can offer is understanding and practical strategies that have helped me and others, and most importantly, the knowledge that you’re not alone in this.

Your pace is the right pace. Your small victories matter. And your journey, with all its ups and downs, is valid and worthy of support.

Are you ready to have that first conversation?

Let’s talk about how we can work together to help you get some joy and activity back in your life, one tiny step at a time.

Please note: This support is complementary to, not a replacement for, professional medical care. Always consult with your healthcare providers about your treatment plan.

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Transforming Health: My Path to Fitness and Recovery

I’ve been off the grid for a couple of months while working on myself and improving my mental and physical well-being. I had a nice long talk with my doctor before he left to move out west. I’m still crying on the inside. I had finally found a doctor who listened to me and actively tried his best to help me. That is so hard to find, as I’m sure many of you know!

I was not in a good place because of my chronic illnesses, and it was only getting worse.  It was a struggle just to get out of bed; I just wanted to sleep all day. Going up and down the stairs became so difficult for me; I was worried I would fall down them. Even when I had a “good” day, I would overdo it and send myself into a fibromyalgia flare-up for the next several days, minimum. This, in turn, made me scared to do anything, feeling that it would send me into a flare-up. Because of all of this, my depression and anxiety were only getting worse, despite my medications. 

My doctor had to confer with several other doctors because he was unsure of what he could do to help. When he got back to me, he let me know the feedback he received from the other doctors. 

Here’s what we learned. The less that I did, the worse I would get. I was losing muscle and mobility (and just gaining even more weight, that I DID NOT need!) I’m 5’ 8” and I weighed in at a little over 300 lbs. I was not feeling good about myself. The worse my mobility got, the less I wanted to move around, which was making my mobility worse…yes, a vicious cycle, indeed. Mobility is a “use it or lose it” situation, and this is what I was experiencing. It was so disheartening.

So, my doctor gave me the “hard” advice that he knew I wouldn’t want to hear, but I trusted him, and so I faced my fears and I did what he suggested. I’m really glad that I did. It wasn’t easy, by any means, but it has been worth it. 

I’m now working out, meditating, and doing household chores daily. It’s been a difficult road, but I’m getting stronger and doing more each day, AND I’m not having any fibromyalgia flare-ups! It’s been a while since I’ve had a flare-up. FYI, I’ve also lost 12 lbs since I started following his advice. Fingers crossed that this continues. 

I’ve also been sending my resume out, attempting to find a job that is not a WFH position. I find that I miss going into work and seeing the same people every day. Who knew? I’ve had a couple of interviews, but so far that’s been all. I’m scared (terrified, actually), because starting a new job is difficult enough, but as someone with multiple chronic illnesses, it’s even worse. Stay tuned to find out how the job hunt goes, and hopefully, how going back to a full-time job works out for me. 

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My Chronic Illness Journey: From Graves’ Disease to Fibromyalgia and Everything in Between

This is my story – not just the medical timeline, but the real, messy, complicated journey of how chronic illness crept into every corner of my life and changed everything. If you’re newly diagnosed, struggling with mysterious symptoms, or watching your own health evolve in confusing ways, maybe parts of my story will feel familiar. If you love someone on this journey, this is what it really looks like from the inside – the fear, the grief, the small victories, and the daily adaptation that becomes your new normal.

“I never imagined that something as simple as getting out of bed, going to work, or even just existing could feel like a daily battle against my own body. But here I am, navigating life with a chronic illness, learning how to work, rest, and survive in a world that never seems to slow down.”

The Beginning: When Your Body First Betrays You

The Graves’ Disease Diagnosis

I was first diagnosed with Graves’ Disease after experiencing symptoms from an overactive thyroid. At the time, I was given two options to “fix” my condition: surgery to remove my thyroid or radioactive iodine treatment.

What Graves’ Disease really meant:

  • My immune system was attacking my thyroid gland
  • The overactive thyroid was causing rapid heartbeat, anxiety, weight loss, and heat intolerance
  • This wasn’t just a “thyroid problem” – it was my first encounter with autoimmune disease
  • The treatment options would have permanent, life-altering consequences

The Decision I Regret

I was young and, to be honest, I didn’t realize I should have researched my choices more. I also don’t know what other options were available back in 2008. I chose radioactive iodine treatment because it was the quickest solution and got me back to work faster.

What I wish I’d known then:

  • The long-term consequences of destroying my thyroid
  • How thyroid function affects every system in your body
  • That “quick fixes” in medicine often come with long-term costs
  • The importance of getting second opinions for major medical decisions
  • That asking for time to research wasn’t unreasonable

The pressure to get back to work: This represents a broader problem with chronic illness – the pressure to choose treatments based on productivity rather than long-term health outcomes.

The Immediate Aftermath

A year later, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, along with my now underactive thyroid. That’s also when I started struggling with brain fog—something I didn’t even have a name for at the time.

The cascade effect of thyroid destruction:

  • Depression and anxiety: Often linked to thyroid dysfunction
  • Brain fog: Cognitive symptoms that doctors rarely warn you about
  • Underactive thyroid: Requiring lifelong medication replacement
  • Metabolic changes: Affecting weight, energy, and overall health

The Cognitive Struggles Begin

It’s a frustrating mental haze that makes it hard to focus, recall information, or even hold conversations. My husband would get frustrated with me because I couldn’t remember things that once came easily. If I didn’t write things down in a calendar, I’d completely forget important dates that I should have easily remembered.

What brain fog actually feels like:

  • Words disappearing mid-sentence
  • Walking into rooms and forgetting why you’re there
  • Reading the same paragraph multiple times without comprehension
  • Feeling like you’re thinking through thick cotton
  • Forgetting important dates, appointments, and conversations
  • Difficulty following complex instructions or multi-step tasks

The relationship impact: When cognitive symptoms affect memory and communication, loved ones often don’t understand that this is a medical symptom, not carelessness or lack of caring.

The False Hope

At first, I thought treating my thyroid would be the end of my struggles. I knew I’d have to take medication for the rest of my life, but taking one pill daily seemed manageable. And it was… for a little while.

Why I thought it would be simple:

  • Doctors presented it as straightforward hormone replacement
  • I didn’t understand the complexity of thyroid function
  • No one warned me about potential complications
  • I believed medical problems had clear solutions

The reality of thyroid medication:

  • Finding the right dose can take months or years
  • Different brands affect people differently
  • Absorption can be affected by foods, other medications, and illness
  • Many people never feel “normal” again despite “normal” lab values
  • Other health problems can complicate thyroid management

The Escalation: When One Condition Becomes Many

The Respiratory Complications

A few years later, I started having allergy and asthma problems. I needed inhalers, and for years, I relied on over-the-counter allergy medications. Eventually, my body got used to them, and I had to switch to stronger prescription meds just to function.

The connection between thyroid and immune function:

  • Autoimmune conditions often cluster together
  • Thyroid dysfunction can affect respiratory health
  • Chronic inflammation creates a cascade of symptoms
  • The immune system becomes increasingly reactive

The medication treadmill: This pattern of needing stronger and stronger medications to manage symptoms becomes a common theme in chronic illness.

The Turning Point

But it was about 10 years ago that things really started going downhill fast.

Why chronic illness often accelerates:

  • Accumulated damage from ongoing inflammation
  • Stress on body systems from managing multiple conditions
  • Side effects from long-term medication use
  • Aging combined with chronic disease
  • Undiagnosed conditions finally manifesting

The Weight Struggle

I’ve always struggled with my weight, but it suddenly became worse than ever. Carrying around extra weight isn’t just about appearance—it makes everything harder. Basic movements, energy levels, breathing—it all gets impacted in ways people don’t always realize.

How chronic illness complicates weight management:

  • Thyroid dysfunction slows metabolism significantly
  • Medications often cause weight gain as side effects
  • Reduced activity from pain and fatigue leads to muscle loss
  • Inflammation affects metabolism and hunger signals
  • Depression can affect eating patterns and motivation
  • Sleep disruption affects hormones that regulate weight

The physical impact of weight gain with chronic illness:

  • Increased joint stress worsening pain
  • Reduced stamina for daily activities
  • Breathing difficulties during exertion
  • Heat intolerance and sweating
  • Reduced mobility and flexibility
  • Clothing and seating accommodations needed

The Exhaustion That Sleep Can’t Fix

Then came the exhaustion—the kind that no amount of sleep can fix. I’d spend entire weekends sleeping just to recover from the workweek. But instead of feeling rested, I just felt guilty—like I had wasted all my free time. There were so many things I wanted to do, but I just didn’t have the energy.

Understanding chronic fatigue:

  • Different from normal tiredness: Not relieved by rest
  • Post-exertional malaise: Feeling worse after activity
  • Unrefreshing sleep: Waking up exhausted despite hours of sleep
  • Cognitive fatigue: Mental tasks become exhausting
  • Physical heaviness: Feeling like you’re moving through thick mud

The guilt cycle:

  • Guilt about spending weekends sleeping
  • Guilt about missed social activities
  • Guilt about reduced productivity
  • Guilt about being a “burden” on family
  • Guilt about not being the person you used to be

The Symptom Cascade: When Your Body Becomes a Stranger

The Pain Begins

Then the random aches and pains started—ones I had never experienced before. My brain fog got worse, and at the time, I didn’t think that was even possible.

The progression of fibromyalgia symptoms:

  • Widespread pain: Affecting muscles, joints, and soft tissues
  • Worsening cognitive symptoms: Brain fog becoming more severe
  • Sleep disturbances: Both falling asleep and staying asleep
  • Increased sensitivity: To light, sound, touch, and temperature
  • Digestive issues: Often accompanying fibromyalgia

The Sleep Problems Multiply

I started waking up sore from sleeping in one position for too long. I developed Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS), followed by muscle twitches that happened all day and night.

How sleep becomes another source of symptoms:

  • Morning stiffness: Waking up in more pain than when you went to bed
  • Pressure point sensitivity: Unable to lie in one position for long
  • Restless legs: Uncomfortable sensations preventing sleep
  • Muscle twitches: Involuntary movements disrupting rest
  • Temperature regulation: Being too hot or cold affecting comfort

The sleep-pain cycle:

  • Poor sleep worsens pain
  • Pain makes sleep difficult
  • Medications for pain can affect sleep quality
  • Sleep aids can worsen morning grogginess
  • The cycle becomes self-perpetuating

The Escalating Pain Experience

Then came the muscle cramps, the burning sensations, the pinprick pains—sometimes all over my body. The worst spots? My back and feet. Those are the ones that make me jump every time.

Different types of fibromyalgia pain:

  • Muscle cramps: Sudden, intense contractions
  • Burning sensations: Feeling like internal heat or fire
  • Pinprick pains: Sharp, stabbing sensations
  • Allodynia: Pain from normally non-painful touch
  • Hyperalgesia: Increased sensitivity to painful stimuli

The unpredictability factor: Never knowing when or where pain will strike makes planning and daily activities extremely challenging.

The Hand Problems: My Greatest Fear

And now, the problems with my hands scare me the most. My hands are always sore and achy, but now my thumbs have started locking up on me. They’ll freeze in a flexed position, and when I try to stretch them out, sometimes I can, sometimes I can’t. When I do manage to move them, the pain is unbearable, and there’s an awful clicking noise—like bones grinding together.

Why hand problems are particularly frightening:

  • Independence concerns: Hands are essential for self-care
  • Work implications: Most jobs require hand function
  • Daily living impact: Cooking, cleaning, writing, typing
  • Progressive nature: Fear that symptoms will worsen
  • Limited treatment options: Few effective interventions

The practical impact:

  • Difficulty opening jars, bottles, and packages
  • Pain when typing or writing
  • Problems with fine motor tasks like buttoning clothes
  • Weakness affecting grip strength
  • Interference with hobbies and interests

How compression gloves help:

  • Provide gentle pressure to reduce swelling
  • Support joint alignment
  • Improve circulation
  • Reduce stiffness
  • Offer warmth for comfort

The Diagnosis: Finally Having a Name

The Relief and Terror of Diagnosis

After years of dealing with all of this—visiting different doctors and getting different answers—I was finally diagnosed with fibromyalgia.

In one way, the diagnosis made me feel better because I finally had an answer that made sense. But in another way, it terrified me because there isn’t much that can be done about it.

The complex emotions of chronic illness diagnosis:

Relief:

  • Finally having a name for your symptoms
  • Validation that you’re not “crazy” or “making it up”
  • Understanding that others experience similar symptoms
  • Access to specific treatments and resources
  • Connection with support communities

Fear:

  • Learning there’s no cure
  • Uncertainty about disease progression
  • Limited treatment options
  • Impact on future plans and goals
  • Financial implications of ongoing treatment

Grief:

  • Mourning the healthy life you expected
  • Loss of former capabilities and activities
  • Changed relationships and social connections
  • Altered career prospects and goals
  • The person you used to be

Understanding Fibromyalgia

What fibromyalgia actually is:

  • A chronic pain condition affecting the central nervous system
  • Characterized by widespread musculoskeletal pain
  • Often accompanied by fatigue, sleep problems, and cognitive issues
  • More common in women, typically diagnosed between ages 20-50
  • Often coexists with other conditions like depression, anxiety, and autoimmune diseases

Why it’s difficult to treat:

  • No single cause has been identified
  • Symptoms vary greatly between individuals
  • Treatments that work for one person may not work for another
  • Often requires a multi-modal approach
  • Research is ongoing but limited

Accepting Limitations: The Hardest Lesson

Confronting Physical Reality

Coming to terms with my limitations has been one of the hardest parts of this journey. I just can’t do everything I used to. I don’t have the energy, and my body is in so much constant pain that I have to carefully choose what I can and can’t handle every day.

What accepting limitations actually means:

  • Energy budgeting: Treating energy like a finite resource
  • Priority reassessment: Focusing on what’s most important
  • Flexibility planning: Having backup options for bad days
  • Boundary setting: Saying no to activities that worsen symptoms
  • Identity adjustment: Redefining yourself beyond physical capabilities

The Mental vs. Physical Battle

It’s frustrating because, in my mind, I want to do everything—but I’m stuck in a body that won’t let me.

The disconnect between mind and body:

  • Mental capabilities often remain intact while physical abilities decline
  • Desire to maintain previous activity levels
  • Frustration with the gap between intention and capability
  • Grief over lost physical abilities
  • Struggle to adjust expectations and goals

Learning to work with your body instead of against it:

  • Recognizing early warning signs of overexertion
  • Planning activities around energy levels
  • Using assistive devices without shame
  • Modifying rather than abandoning activities
  • Celebrating adapted achievements

Career Adjustments: Health vs. Financial Security

Leaving the Toxic Environment

Recently, I had to leave a job because the toxic work environment, combined with 10-hour days, was completely wrecking my health.

How toxic workplaces affect chronic illness:

  • Stress worsening symptoms: High-stress environments trigger flares
  • Long hours depleting energy: Extended workdays prevent recovery
  • Lack of accommodation: Inflexible policies worsening health
  • Emotional toll: Workplace stress affecting mental health
  • Physical demands: Requirements exceeding physical capabilities

The Difficult Job Search

When I started looking for a new job, I knew I couldn’t take anything that required me to work more than eight hours a day or stand for long periods.

That made the job search even more stressful. It was exhausting trying to find something I knew I’d be able to physically handle.

Chronic illness job search challenges:

  • Limited options: Many jobs incompatible with health needs
  • Disclosure dilemmas: When and how to reveal limitations
  • Accommodation uncertainty: Not knowing if employers will be supportive
  • Energy depletion: Job searching itself being exhausting
  • Financial pressure: Needing income while prioritizing health

The Trade-offs

But after a few months, I finally found a great job with a supportive work environment. The only problem? The pay was much lower than what I was used to.

So, I had to make another adjustment. Finding a part-time job that I could balance with my full-time job.

The chronic illness financial reality:

  • Often having to choose health-friendly jobs over higher-paying ones
  • Need for multiple income sources due to reduced earning capacity
  • Medical expenses increasing financial pressure
  • Difficulty building savings due to health-related costs
  • Constant balance between financial needs and health preservation

Why I Started This Blog: Turning Pain into Purpose

The Vision for Community

I have high hopes for this blog. Not only does it give me a place to share my struggles and wins, but I hope it also becomes a community. Where others can share their stories, too.

The therapeutic value of sharing your story:

  • Processing experiences: Writing helps make sense of complex emotions
  • Reducing isolation: Connecting with others who understand
  • Creating meaning: Finding purpose in difficult experiences
  • Helping others: Using personal experience to support others
  • Building advocacy: Raising awareness about chronic illness realities

The Need for Real Community

It’s not easy navigating a world that runs at full speed when you’re stuck in a body that doesn’t even want to move.

What chronic illness community provides:

  • Validation: Others who truly understand your experience
  • Practical support: Tips and resources from people who’ve been there
  • Emotional support: Understanding during difficult times
  • Advocacy: Collective voices for better understanding and treatment
  • Hope: Examples of others thriving despite challenges

My Goals for This Space

💜 I hope this blog becomes a place where people can connect, support each other, and feel less alone.

💜 I want this to be a safe space. Free from judgment, criticism, and negativity.

💜 Everyone is on their own journey, and we should lift each other up however we can.

Creating inclusive community:

  • Acknowledging diverse experiences: Every chronic illness journey is unique
  • Avoiding competitive suffering: Not comparing whose situation is “worse”
  • Supporting all stages: From newly diagnosed to long-term management
  • Welcoming questions: Creating space for learning and growth
  • Celebrating victories: Recognizing achievements at all levels

Lessons Learned: What This Journey Has Taught Me

About the Healthcare System

What I’ve learned about navigating medical care:

  • You must be your own advocate
  • Second opinions are not just acceptable, they’re necessary
  • Doctors don’t always have answers, and that’s okay
  • Research your conditions and treatment options
  • Find providers who listen and take you seriously
  • Keep detailed records of symptoms and treatments

About Relationships

How chronic illness affects relationships:

  • Some people will surprise you with their support
  • Others will disappoint you with their lack of understanding
  • Communication about your needs is essential
  • Boundaries are necessary for your health
  • Quality relationships matter more than quantity
  • Your true friends will adapt with you

About Identity and Self-Worth

Redefining yourself beyond illness:

  • You are more than your diagnoses
  • Productivity doesn’t determine your worth
  • Adaptation is a form of strength
  • Small victories are still victories
  • Rest is not laziness – it’s healthcare
  • Your experience has value and can help others

About Resilience

What resilience actually looks like:

  • Asking for help when you need it
  • Adapting your goals to match your capabilities
  • Finding joy in smaller moments
  • Continuing to hope despite setbacks
  • Building community and connection
  • Using your experience to help others

For Others on This Journey

If You’re Newly Diagnosed

What I wish I’d known at the beginning:

  • It’s okay to grieve: Mourn the life you expected to have
  • Learn everything you can: Become an expert on your condition
  • Find your people: Connect with others who understand
  • Pace yourself: Recovery and adaptation take time
  • Advocate for yourself: You know your body best
  • Hold onto hope: Treatment and management improve over time

If You’re Still Seeking Answers

For those still looking for diagnosis:

  • Trust your instincts: You know when something isn’t right
  • Keep detailed records: Document symptoms, patterns, and triggers
  • Don’t give up: The right doctor and diagnosis may take time to find
  • Seek specialists: Sometimes general practitioners aren’t enough
  • Get second opinions: Different perspectives can provide new insights
  • Take care of yourself: Manage symptoms even without a diagnosis

If You’re Supporting Someone

How to help a loved one with chronic illness:

  • Listen without trying to fix: Sometimes just being heard helps
  • Learn about their condition: Understanding shows you care
  • Offer specific help: “Can I bring dinner?” vs. “Let me know if you need anything”
  • Be patient with limitations: Symptoms can change day to day
  • Don’t take things personally: Bad days aren’t about you
  • Continue to include them: Adapt activities rather than excluding them

Resources That Have Helped Me

Medical Resources

Finding good healthcare providers:

  • Rheumatologists for autoimmune and pain conditions
  • Endocrinologists for thyroid management
  • Pain management specialists for comprehensive pain care
  • Mental health professionals familiar with chronic illness
  • Patient advocates for complex cases

Educational Resources

Reliable information sources:

  • National Fibromyalgia Association
  • American Thyroid Association
  • Graves’ Disease and Thyroid Foundation
  • Arthritis Foundation
  • National Institutes of Health

Support Communities

Where to find understanding:

  • Online support groups for specific conditions
  • Local chronic illness support meetings
  • Social media communities (#chronicillness, #fibromyalgia)
  • Chronic illness blogs and podcasts
  • Patient advocacy organizations

Practical Tools

Items that have made daily life easier:

  • Compression gloves for hand pain
  • Ergonomic tools for daily tasks
  • Heating pads and ice packs for pain management
  • Organization systems for medications
  • Comfortable seating and bedding options

The Ongoing Journey

What I’m Still Learning

Chronic illness is an ongoing education:

  • Symptom management: Constantly adjusting strategies
  • Treatment options: Staying informed about new developments
  • Self-advocacy: Improving communication with healthcare providers
  • Boundary setting: Getting better at protecting my energy
  • Community building: Finding and creating supportive spaces

Hope for the Future

Why I remain optimistic:

  • Medical advances: New treatments and understanding developing
  • Community growth: More people sharing their experiences openly
  • Awareness increasing: Greater understanding of chronic illness
  • Personal growth: Continued learning and adaptation
  • Purpose found: Using experience to help others

You Are Not Alone

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading.

If you’re struggling with your own chronic illness, I want you to know:

✨ You are not alone. Millions of people navigate chronic illness daily, and your experience is valid.

✨ There are people who understand what you’re going through. While your specific situation is unique, the feelings and challenges are shared by many.

✨ They may not be your family or friends, but they are out there. Sometimes understanding comes from unexpected places – online communities, support groups, or blogs like this one.

Additional truths I want you to know:

  • Your pain is real, even when others can’t see it
  • Your limitations are valid, even when they’re invisible
  • Your feelings about your illness are normal and acceptable
  • Your journey is your own, and there’s no “right” way to have chronic illness
  • Your voice matters, and your story could help someone else
  • You are stronger than you realize, and you’re doing better than you think

Moving Forward Together

This blog exists because I needed community and suspected others did too. It’s built on the belief that sharing our real experiences, from the messy, complicated, to the sometimes beautiful reality of chronic illness. This creates connection and understanding.

My commitment to this community:

  • Honesty: Sharing the real experience, not just the highlights
  • Support: Creating space for all experiences and emotions
  • Education: Providing useful information and resources
  • Advocacy: Working to increase understanding and support
  • Hope: Demonstrating that meaningful life is possible with chronic illness

Your chronic illness journey is unique, but you don’t have to walk it alone. Whether you’re at the beginning of diagnosis, years into management, or supporting someone you love, there’s a place for you here.

Together, we can change the narrative around chronic illness from one of limitation and despair to one of adaptation, community, and hope. We can create understanding where there was ignorance, support where there was isolation, and strength where there was only struggle.

Your story matters. Your experience has value. You belong here.

💬 Let’s start a conversation.

✨ What’s your biggest challenge living with chronic illness? ✨

Drop a comment below, and let’s talk. Your experience might help someone else feel less alone in their journey. 💜

From Survival to Purpose: How Working Two Jobs with Chronic Illness Led Me to Build This Community

If you’ve ever wondered how someone with chronic illness manages to work multiple jobs, run a blog, and still advocate for others, this is that story. It’s about financial necessity forcing impossible choices, about finding strength you didn’t know you had, and about turning personal struggle into community building. Whether you’re juggling multiple jobs with chronic illness, considering starting a side hustle, or wondering how to turn your experiences into something meaningful, this is the real, unfiltered journey of how Chronically Hustling came to be.

Working one job with chronic illness is exhausting — but working two? That sounds impossible. Yet, here I am, navigating this reality because life doesn’t always give us a choice. It wasn’t an easy decision, but sometimes life pushes you into situations where you have to adapt, even when your body is screaming at you to slow down.

The Reality of Chronic Illness and Employment

The Hidden Employment Crisis

Before diving into my personal story, it’s important to understand the broader context of chronic illness and work:

Employment statistics for people with chronic illness:

  • 56% of working-age adults with chronic conditions are employed, compared to 76% of those without
  • People with chronic illness are more likely to work part-time or have irregular employment
  • Underemployment (working below skill level or fewer hours than desired) is common
  • Career progression is often limited by health accommodations needs
  • Financial insecurity affects 40% of people with chronic conditions

The Accommodation Challenge

Common workplace challenges include:

  • Employers who don’t understand invisible disabilities
  • Limited sick leave policies
  • Inflexible schedules that don’t account for medical appointments
  • Job duties that may trigger symptoms
  • Lack of ergonomic accommodations
  • Career advancement limitations due to health needs

This creates a perfect storm: People with chronic illness often need more flexible, accommodating work environments, but these jobs frequently pay less than traditional full-time positions.

My Employment Journey: From Toxic to Hopeful

Leaving the Toxic Environment

When my previous job ended, and I was forced to look for another job, it was scary. Despite the toxic environment and 10-hour workdays, at least I knew I could do the job. Trying to find a new job that I knew I could handle was difficult at best.

Why leaving a familiar job is terrifying with chronic illness:

  • Uncertainty about physical demands of new positions
  • Fear of disclosure – when and how to reveal your condition
  • Accommodation concerns – will the new employer be understanding?
  • Insurance continuity – losing healthcare coverage during job transitions
  • Energy depletion from the job search process itself

The toxic job paradox: Even when a job is harmful to your mental and physical health, the fear of finding something worse can keep you trapped.

Finding the Right Fit (Sort Of)

I did, finally, find a job that was 8 hours a day and mostly a sit-down job. There are things that I have to occasionally stand up for, but they are few and far between, thankfully. I really do enjoy the job and the people that I now work with. It’s a completely different atmosphere from my last job that does not send my anxiety and depression soaring.

What made this job better:

  • Reduced hours (8 instead of 10) provided more recovery time
  • Primarily sedentary work accommodated physical limitations
  • Positive work culture supported mental health
  • Understanding colleagues reduced workplace stress
  • Lower-key environment didn’t exacerbate anxiety

The importance of workplace culture: A supportive environment can make the difference between thriving and barely surviving with chronic illness.

The Financial Reality Check

Unfortunately, this new job pays considerably less than my previous job. It was painfully obvious early on that the income from this new job was not going to be able to pay all my bills, not to mention that I was behind from being off work for a couple of months.

The chronic illness financial squeeze:

  • Medical expenses that healthy people don’t have
  • Reduced earning capacity due to health limitations
  • Time off for medical care reducing income
  • Accommodation needs potentially limiting higher-paying opportunities
  • Emergency fund depletion from health crises

This creates an impossible choice: Take a job that accommodates your health needs but doesn’t pay enough, or take a higher-paying job that may worsen your condition.

The Search for Solutions: Navigating the Side Hustle World

The Part-Time Job Dilemma

I started to explore my options for a part-time job that could supplement my current income and help me make ends meet. This was even scarier than trying to find a regular job. What kind of part-time job could I get that I could do after working an 8-hour shift and on the weekends?

The unique challenges of finding side work with chronic illness:

  • Energy limitations after a full workday
  • Weekend recovery needs conflicting with work opportunities
  • Physical limitations that restrict job types
  • Unpredictable symptoms that make committed schedules difficult
  • Transportation challenges if symptoms affect driving

Avoiding the Scams

I started exploring work-at-home jobs, and most of them were schemes and scams that were only going to take money out of my wallet. Money that I didn’t have. I started playing games for money. Some of them do make you money, but it’s not much, and they will not pay the bills.

Red flags in work-from-home opportunities:

  • Upfront fees required to start working
  • Unrealistic earning promises (“Make $5000/month working 2 hours!”)
  • Vague job descriptions that don’t specify actual tasks
  • Multi-level marketing schemes disguised as job opportunities
  • Personal information requests before legitimate job offers

The desperation trap: When you’re financially struggling, it’s easy to fall for scams that promise quick solutions.

Finding Legitimate Remote Work

I did find a decent online job that I could do from the comfort of my home when I had the time available. So now I spend an hour or two after my day job and then on the weekends. I’m now making the money needed to fit my needs.

Characteristics of chronic illness-friendly side work:

  • Flexible scheduling that works around symptoms and main job
  • Home-based to eliminate commute and provide comfortable environment
  • Project-based or hourly rather than requiring set schedules
  • Skills-based utilizing existing talents and experience
  • Legitimate companies with clear payment structures

Types of remote work that often work well:

  • Virtual assistance and administrative support
  • Content writing and editing
  • Customer service (with flexible schedules)
  • Tutoring or teaching online
  • Freelance services in your expertise area
  • Transcription and data entry

Managing the Physical Demands

Since I’ve started working extra hours staring at a screen, I’ve bought a pair of blue light glasses to wear in the evenings while I’m working. They’ve been a game changer. They’re super lightweight and comfortable.

Essential equipment for extended computer work:

  • Blue light glasses to reduce eye strain and improve sleep
  • Ergonomic chair and desk setup to prevent additional pain
  • Good lighting to reduce eye fatigue
  • Wrist supports for typing comfort
  • Standing desk option for position changes

The Emotional Journey: From Desperation to Purpose

The Isolation of Struggle

All during this, I was thinking about how I wanted to share my experiences with people who would understand and who I could talk to and know that they would understand exactly what I was going through.

The unique loneliness of working with chronic illness:

  • Feeling like no one understands the daily struggle
  • Inability to relate to colleagues’ casual complaints about being tired
  • Hiding symptoms to maintain professional image
  • Lack of chronic illness representation in workplace discussions
  • Financial stress compounding health stress

The Birth of an Idea

All of this led me to start this blog. It’s hard to work all these hours, but I’m managing despite my chronic illnesses.

How personal struggle becomes community building:

  • Recognizing the gap in honest chronic illness workplace content
  • Wanting to help others feel less alone in their experiences
  • Turning pain into purpose through sharing and advocacy
  • Building something meaningful from difficult circumstances
  • Creating the support you wish you’d had

The Daily Reality of Working Multiple Jobs with Chronic Illness

I’m going to be honest and admit that there are days at work when I have to get up and move around a little just so I won’t sit there and fall asleep. There have been times when I decided to sleep in an extra hour or two on the weekends because I was so tired. There have also been times when I came home from work and decided that I just couldn’t do anymore.

What working multiple jobs with chronic illness actually looks like:

  • Micro-recovery periods throughout the workday (movement breaks, breathing exercises)
  • Strategic rest on weekends to prevent complete burnout
  • Daily energy assessment to determine what’s realistic
  • Flexible self-expectations based on symptom levels
  • Guilt management around necessary limitations

I’m slowly learning that’s okay and to not feel guilty.

The Emotional Processing

Sometimes, I do feel alone, and it seems like no one understands how I feel. I know this isn’t true, but when I’m feeling tired and down, it certainly feels like it. There are times I’m not even sure how I feel because I’m so tired and sore. It has helped writing this all out while I explore my feelings about the whole situation.

The therapeutic value of sharing your story:

  • Validation of your own experiences
  • Clarity through articulating challenges
  • Connection with others in similar situations
  • Purpose in helping others feel less alone
  • Empowerment through advocacy and community building

Practical Strategies for Working Multiple Jobs with Chronic Illness

Energy Management Techniques

Pacing strategies for multiple jobs:

  • Time-blocking work sessions with built-in breaks
  • Alternating tasks to prevent repetitive strain
  • Priority-based scheduling focusing on essential tasks during peak energy
  • Buffer time between commitments for transitions
  • Weekly energy audits to adjust schedules as needed

Health Maintenance While Working

Essential health strategies:

  • Regular medication schedules that work with job demands
  • Ergonomic setups for all work environments
  • Hydration and nutrition planning for long work days
  • Movement breaks to prevent stiffness and fatigue
  • Sleep hygiene prioritizing quality rest

Financial Management

Making multiple jobs sustainable:

  • Budgeting to ensure the extra work is worth the health cost
  • Emergency planning for when health prevents working
  • Tax considerations for multiple income sources
  • Healthcare cost planning with irregular income
  • Goal-setting for financial stability that allows for health accommodation

Boundary Setting

Protecting your health while working multiple jobs:

  • Clear availability windows that include recovery time
  • Communication strategies for explaining limitations
  • Saying no to additional opportunities that would overextend you
  • Regular reassessment of whether the arrangement is sustainable
  • Exit strategies if health deteriorates

Building Community from Personal Experience

The Vision for Connection

I want to reach out to other people who might feel the same way and let them know that they aren’t alone, even when it feels like it. I want this to become a community for people who feel the same way. I want this to be a safe place for people to come and share their stories and feel supported. That’s my hope for this blog.

What real chronic illness community looks like:

  • Honest sharing without pressure to be inspirational
  • Practical support and resource sharing
  • Validation of difficult experiences
  • Celebration of small victories
  • Advocacy for better understanding and accommodation

Turning Experience into Advocacy

How personal struggle becomes community building:

  • Sharing resources you wish you’d had access to
  • Normalizing the reality of working with chronic illness
  • Educating employers and colleagues about accommodation needs
  • Supporting others facing similar decisions
  • Building visibility for invisible disabilities in the workplace

For Employers: What You Need to Know

The Value of Employees with Chronic Illness

Why hiring people with chronic illness benefits everyone:

  • Exceptional time management skills from managing complex schedules
  • Problem-solving abilities developed from navigating daily challenges
  • Empathy and communication skills
  • Dedication and reliability when properly accommodated
  • Unique perspectives that improve workplace culture

Accommodation Strategies That Work

Simple accommodations that make a big difference:

  • Flexible start times for morning stiffness
  • Work-from-home options for symptom management
  • Ergonomic equipment and seating
  • Frequent break allowances for movement and rest
  • Modified duties during flare periods

Creating Inclusive Workplace Culture

How to support employees with chronic illness:

  • Education about invisible disabilities
  • Flexible policies that accommodate various needs
  • Open communication about accommodation needs
  • Mental health support recognizing the stress of chronic illness
  • Career development opportunities that work with health limitations

Resources for Working with Chronic Illness

Job Search Resources

Disability-friendly job search sites:

  • Getting Hired (gettinghired.com)
  • DiversityJobs (diversityjobs.com)
  • RecruitDisability (recruitdisability.org)
  • FlexJobs (flexjobs.com) for remote and flexible work

Legal Protections and Rights

Know your rights under the ADA:

  • Reasonable accommodation requests
  • Disclosure timing and requirements
  • Protection from discrimination
  • Medical leave entitlements
  • State-specific protections

Financial Support Resources

Assistance programs for people with chronic illness:

  • Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI)
  • Supplemental Security Income (SSI)
  • State disability programs
  • Medicaid and Medicare
  • Prescription assistance programs
  • Utility assistance programs

Remote Work Opportunities

Legitimate platforms for finding remote work:

  • Upwork and Fiverr for freelance projects
  • Indeed and LinkedIn for remote positions
  • Virtual assistant agencies
  • Online tutoring platforms
  • Content creation marketplaces

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I know if I should disclose my chronic illness to employers? Consider factors like whether you need accommodations, job demands, company culture, and legal protections. You’re not required to disclose during interviews, but may need to for accommodations.

What if my employer won’t provide reasonable accommodations? Document your requests, know your legal rights, contact HR, and consider filing a complaint with the EEOC if necessary. Sometimes an employment attorney consultation helps.

How do I manage the guilt of not working as much as healthy people? Remember that your worth isn’t determined by your productivity. You’re managing complex health needs while still contributing meaningfully. Adjust your expectations to match your reality.

Is it worth it to work multiple jobs with chronic illness? This depends on your financial needs, health stability, and available support. Consider both short-term financial relief and long-term health impacts.

How do I find legitimate work-from-home opportunities? Use reputable job sites, research companies thoroughly, avoid opportunities requiring upfront fees, and start with small projects to build relationships with legitimate clients.

What if I can’t work at all due to my chronic illness? Explore disability benefits, assistance programs, and alternative income sources. Consider whether accommodations might make some work possible, and don’t hesitate to seek support.

The Bigger Picture: Changing Workplace Culture

The Need for Systemic Change

Current workplace culture often fails people with chronic illness:

  • Outdated productivity measures
  • Inflexible attendance policies
  • Lack of accommodation understanding
  • Stigma around invisible disabilities
  • Limited career advancement opportunities

Building Better Workplaces

What needs to change:

  • Flexible policy development that accommodates various needs
  • Manager training on disability inclusion
  • Culture shifts away from presenteeism
  • Technology utilization for accessibility
  • Career development pathways for people with disabilities

The Bottom Line

Working multiple jobs with chronic illness isn’t a choice I’d recommend if you have other options, but sometimes life circumstances require impossible things from us. What I’ve learned is that it’s possible to not just survive these challenges, but to find meaning and purpose within them.

Key takeaways from my journey:

It’s okay to prioritize your health: Taking a lower-paying job that accommodates your needs isn’t giving up – it’s smart healthcare management.

Financial stress and health stress compound each other: Address both when possible, and don’t blame yourself for circumstances beyond your control.

Community and connection matter: Sharing your struggles can help both you and others feel less alone.

Small accommodations make big differences: Simple tools and adjustments can significantly improve your ability to work.

Your experience has value: The challenges you’ve overcome give you unique insights that can help others.

It’s possible to turn struggle into purpose: Sometimes our most difficult experiences become the foundation for our most meaningful work.

This blog exists because of that impossible choice between health and financial stability. It exists because I needed community and suspected others did too. It exists because working with chronic illness is challenging enough without feeling alone in the struggle.

Whether you’re juggling multiple jobs, searching for work that accommodates your health needs, or trying to build something meaningful from your chronic illness experience, know that you’re not alone. We’re building this community together, one honest conversation at a time.

Your story matters. Your struggles are valid. Your resilience is remarkable. And sometimes, the things that nearly break us become the foundation for something beautiful.

Have you ever had to juggle multiple jobs while managing a chronic illness? What helped you push through? Let’s share tips and support each other in the comments below.

Misdiagnosed: The Long Road to My Fibromyalgia Diagnosis (And Why You Should Never Stop Fighting for Answers)

If you’re reading this while living with unexplained symptoms, dismissed by doctors, or wondering if you’re “just imagining” your pain – this is for you. If you love someone who’s been searching for answers for years, this might help you understand why that diagnosis matters so much. Getting misdiagnosed isn’t just frustrating – it’s a form of medical gaslighting that can make you question your own reality. But your symptoms are real, your pain is valid, and you deserve answers.

For years, I knew something was wrong with my body. I felt the kind of pain that didn’t go away, the kind of exhaustion that sleep didn’t fix. I had brain fog, flare-ups I couldn’t explain, and an ever-growing list of symptoms that made me feel like a stranger in my own skin.

But no one could give me answers.

Instead of support, I got shrugs. I got rushed appointments, bloodwork that “looked fine,” and suggestions that it was “just stress” or “just depression.” I was misdiagnosed more than once—each label adding another layer of confusion and self-doubt. I started to wonder if maybe it was all in my head. Maybe I was just lazy. Or dramatic. Or broken.

I wasn’t.

It was fibromyalgia all along.

The Reality of Medical Misdiagnosis: More Common Than You Think

Before I share my story, let’s talk about how common this experience actually is. Studies show that the average person with fibromyalgia sees multiple doctors and waits 2-3 years for an accurate diagnosis. For other chronic conditions, the timeline can be even longer:

  • Endometriosis: Average of 7-10 years to diagnosis
  • Autoimmune conditions: Often 3-5 years with multiple misdiagnoses
  • Rare diseases: Can take 5-7 years on average
  • Mental health conditions: Frequently misdiagnosed as physical problems, or vice versa

This isn’t just statistics – this represents millions of people suffering in silence, questioning their own reality, and fighting to be heard.

The Misdiagnosis Trap: My Journey Through Medical Confusion

Before I ever heard the word “fibromyalgia” from a doctor, I was given every other explanation. Anxiety. Depression. Chronic fatigue. Even early-onset arthritis. At one point, someone suggested I might just be “too sensitive.”

The Labels That Didn’t Fit

Each misdiagnosis came with its own treatment plan that didn’t work:

“It’s just anxiety” – I was prescribed anti-anxiety medications that didn’t touch the physical pain or fatigue. When I continued to have symptoms, I was told I wasn’t “managing my stress well enough.”

“You’re depressed” – Antidepressants were tried next. While some helped with the secondary depression that comes from dealing with chronic pain, they didn’t address the core symptoms.

“Chronic fatigue syndrome” – This was closer, but still didn’t explain the widespread pain, tender points, and other symptoms I was experiencing.

“Early arthritis” – X-rays and joint exams showed no signs of arthritis, leaving me back at square one.

The Psychological Impact of Being Dismissed

Every test that came back “normal” made me feel more invisible. Like my experience didn’t matter unless it showed up in black-and-white on a lab report. The pain was real—but the recognition wasn’t.

This is what medical gaslighting feels like:

  • Questioning your own perception of pain and symptoms
  • Feeling like you need to “prove” how sick you are
  • Wondering if you’re being dramatic or seeking attention
  • Starting to doubt your own memory of symptoms
  • Feeling guilty for continuing to seek help

That’s the problem with fibromyalgia and many other chronic conditions. They don’t show up on scans. Fibromyalgia is a diagnosis of exclusion – meaning doctors have to rule out everything else first. And in that in-between space, people like me are often left hanging for years.

The Moment Everything Changed: Hearing My Diagnosis

When my doctor finally said the word “fibromyalgia,” I didn’t even know how to react. It wasn’t relief, not really. It was more like, Wait… why did it take so long to get here?

But it was also validation. For the first time, someone was telling me, “Yes, your pain is real. Your exhaustion is real. Your symptoms are real.” That meant everything.

The Complex Emotions of Finally Getting Answers

Getting diagnosed with a chronic condition brings up complicated feelings:

Relief: Finally having a name for what you’re experiencing Grief: Mourning the life you thought you’d have Anger:Frustration at how long it took to get here Fear: Worry about what this means for your future Validation: Knowing you weren’t “crazy” or “making it up”

Still, even with the name, I had a whole new mountain to climb. Learning how to live with fibromyalgia. Learning what it meant. And learning how to push past all the misinformation people still have about it.

What I’ve Learned Since: Living with Fibromyalgia After Diagnosis

Fibromyalgia doesn’t have a cure. It doesn’t come with an instruction manual either. It’s different for everyone. Some days are manageable. Some days hit like a truck. And there’s no predicting which it’ll be.

The Unpredictable Nature of Chronic Illness

I find out what kind of day it’ll be when I wake up in the morning. Even then, it can always change. I might feel okay in the morning, and the afternoon can hit like a truck. I just never know.

This unpredictability affects:

  • Work planning: Never knowing if you’ll be able to fulfill commitments
  • Social relationships: Having to cancel plans at the last minute
  • Mental health: The stress of uncertainty adds to the physical burden
  • Self-advocacy: Learning to communicate needs when symptoms fluctuate

Building a New Life Around Chronic Illness

I’ve had to learn to listen to my body in ways I never had to before. I’ve had to stop pushing myself to meet other people’s expectations—and start building a life that works for me.

Pacing: Learning to balance activity with rest to prevent flare-ups Stress management: Developing techniques to handle the emotional impact Sleep hygiene: Prioritizing quality sleep, which affects pain levels Support systems: Surrounding myself with people who understand chronic illness Medical advocacy: Learning to communicate effectively with healthcare providers

And on the hardest days, I remind myself: I fought hard to get here. I fought to be heard. I’m still fighting, but I’m no longer doing it in silence.

The Importance of Self-Advocacy in Healthcare

My journey taught me crucial lessons about navigating the medical system with chronic illness:

How to Advocate for Yourself

Keep detailed symptom logs: Track pain levels, fatigue, triggers, and patterns Bring support: Have someone attend appointments to take notes and advocate Ask specific questions: “What else could cause these symptoms?” “What tests haven’t we tried?” Request referrals: Don’t be afraid to ask for specialists Get second opinions: Especially if you feel dismissed or unheard Research your symptoms: Come prepared with information, but let doctors lead

Red Flags: When to Find a New Doctor

  • Dismissing your symptoms without examination
  • Attributing everything to stress or mental health without investigation
  • Refusing to consider other possibilities after initial diagnosis
  • Making you feel ashamed or guilty for seeking help
  • Not listening to your concerns or questions
  • Rushing through appointments without adequate time

For Family and Friends: How to Support Someone Seeking Diagnosis

What TO Do:

Believe their symptoms: Even when tests come back “normal,” their experience is real

Offer practical support: Help with research, accompany them to appointments, take notes

Be patient with the process: Diagnosis can take years and involve many dead ends

Validate their frustration: Acknowledge how exhausting it is to fight for answers

Help them advocate: Sometimes another voice in the room makes a difference

Support their healthcare decisions: Trust that they know their body best

What NOT to Do:

Don’t suggest they’re imagining things: Even well-meaning comments like “maybe it’s stress” can be harmful

Don’t offer medical advice: Unless you’re their doctor, avoid diagnosing or recommending treatments

Don’t compare to others: Every person’s journey to diagnosis is different

Don’t pressure them to “just accept” no answers: They deserve to keep looking for explanations

Don’t minimize their symptoms: Comments like “everyone gets tired” dismiss their experience

The Broader Problem: Why Misdiagnosis Happens

Understanding why misdiagnosis is so common can help both patients and healthcare providers do better:

Systemic Issues in Healthcare

Time constraints: Doctors often have only 15-20 minutes per appointment Insurance limitations: Tests and specialist referrals may be restricted Medical education gaps: Some conditions aren’t well-covered in medical school Bias in medicine: Women, people of color, and younger patients are more likely to be dismissed Complex presentations: Many chronic conditions have overlapping symptoms

The Gender Gap in Healthcare

Research shows that women are more likely to:

  • Have their symptoms attributed to mental health issues
  • Wait longer for pain medication
  • Be told their symptoms are “normal” or “just stress”
  • Receive misdiagnoses for serious conditions

This isn’t just anecdotal – it’s a documented problem in medical research and practice.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long should I wait before seeking a second opinion? If you feel dismissed, unheard, or like your symptoms aren’t being taken seriously, it’s appropriate to seek another perspective immediately. You don’t need to wait a specific amount of time.

What should I do if all my tests are “normal” but I still feel sick? Normal test results don’t mean nothing is wrong. Many conditions don’t show up on standard tests. Ask about additional testing, specialist referrals, or conditions that are diagnosed clinically rather than through lab work.

How do I know if it’s really a medical problem or if it could be mental health? Both can be true simultaneously. Mental health conditions can cause physical symptoms, and chronic physical conditions often lead to mental health challenges. The key is finding providers who will investigate both possibilities without dismissing either.

Should I stop seeking answers if doctors keep saying nothing is wrong? No. You know your body better than anyone else. If something feels wrong, keep advocating for yourself. Consider seeking care at teaching hospitals, academic medical centers, or specialty clinics.

How can I prepare for medical appointments to get better results? Keep detailed symptom logs, bring a list of questions, consider bringing a support person, and don’t be afraid to ask for clarification or additional testing.

To Anyone Still Searching for Answers

If you’re living in that space between “I don’t feel right” and “I don’t know what’s wrong,” please hear this: You’re not crazy. You’re not making it up. And you’re not alone.

You Deserve to Be Heard

Your symptoms matter, even if they don’t fit neatly into a diagnostic box. Your pain is real, even if tests don’t show the cause. Your experience is valid, even if others don’t understand it.

Keep Fighting for Yourself

Keep pushing. Don’t let anyone convince you to stop seeking answers if you know something is wrong.

Keep asking questions. You have the right to understand what’s happening in your body.

Keep advocating for yourself. No one else will fight for your health the way you can.

You deserve answers. Every person deserves medical care that takes their symptoms seriously.

You deserve support. Surround yourself with people who believe and support you.

And most of all, you deserve to be believed.

Resources for Undiagnosed Symptoms

National Organization for Rare Disorders (NORD): rarediseases.org – Resources for rare disease diagnosis

Undiagnosed Diseases Network: undiagnosed.hms.harvard.edu – Research program for difficult cases

Patient advocacy organizations: Many condition-specific organizations offer diagnostic resources

Academic medical centers: Often have specialized undiagnosed disease programs

Support groups: Both online and in-person communities for people seeking diagnosis

The Bottom Line

Getting misdiagnosed isn’t just a medical inconvenience – it’s a form of trauma that can make you question your own reality. The journey to accurate diagnosis can be long, frustrating, and emotionally exhausting. But your persistence matters, your symptoms are real, and you deserve healthcare providers who take you seriously.

My fibromyalgia diagnosis didn’t solve everything, but it gave me something crucial: validation. It confirmed that my years of pain, fatigue, and struggle weren’t imagined or exaggerated. It gave me a starting point for treatment and a community of people who understood my experience.

If you’re still searching for answers, know that your fight is worth it. You’re not being dramatic, you’re not being a difficult patient, and you’re not imagining your symptoms. You’re advocating for your health and your right to be heard – and that takes incredible courage.

Keep fighting. The right doctor, the right test, or the right moment of recognition could be just around the corner. And when you finally get your answers, you’ll know that every appointment, every test, and every moment of self-doubt was worth it to get to the truth.

Remember: This information is educational and should not replace professional medical advice. Always consult with healthcare providers about your specific symptoms and concerns.

Have you experienced medical misdiagnosis or are you currently searching for answers? Share your story in the comments below – your experience might help someone else feel less alone in their journey.